ATTITUDES AND iNTERVIEWING STYLES
TO AVOID
How you approach an interview, and the attitudes you adopt,
will have a tremendous impact on your success at interviewing. There are eight
attitudes and interviewing styles that can destroy your interviewing effectiveness:
being apologetic or defensive, providing inappropriate information, expressing
anti-business feelings, demonstrating negativity, showing an unwillingness to
reveal your true self, being overly modest, bragging, and trying to take charge
of an interview.
Many job applicants come across as apologetic or defensive.
This usually occurs because they feel insecure and believe their background is
weak in certain areas. Consider the following responses to the comment, “Ted,
we’re looking for someone with six years of computer programming and systems
analysis.”
An apologetic response: “I’m sorry, I only have four years of
experience. I wish I had gone to school earlier in my career, then I’d have the
six years. I really blew it.”
A defensive response: “Well, I don’t have six years of
experience, I have four years. Every place I go they want more experience than
I have. What’s wrong with my background?”
Whether apologetic or defensive, Ted’s lack of confidence
comes through loud and clear. If the applicant lacks self-confidence, how can
the interviewer be expected to have confidence in his or her ability?
Now consider Ted’s response after he’s had some interview
coaching: “Mr. Jenkins, I’ve had four years of programming experience. Because
of the variety of my experience, however, it’s equal to what most people gain
in seven or eight years. During these last four years I’ve taken on every
challenge I could so I’d be ready for this type of responsibility.”
Ted has learned the art of overcoming objections. The
interviewer was probably impressed with Ted already when the question was
asked. The job description specified six years of experience, but the interviewer
realized it was not just a matter of years, but of the quality of experience.
He was testing Ted, and Ted passed.
Giving inappropriate information in an interview can be
disastrous. Let’s assume an interview has just started and the two people are
still involved in small talk:
Interviewer: Did you see the latest Gallup Poll? It
indicated the number-one goal of college students today is to get a good job
and make a lot of money. Things sure have changed since the ’60s, haven’t they?
Sandy: I think they’ve sold out.
Everything now is “what’s in it for me?” When I was in school people cared and
they took action. Look at what we did with the marches on Washington and the
1968 Democratic Convention.
Job
interviews are not the place to discuss religion or politics. Both are
emotional issues. You can win in such discussions only if your views coincide
with the interviewer’s. It’s seldom worth taking the chance. In principle, any
statements that do not help to sell you should be left out.
Unless your opinion on a specific matter is requested, it is
generally inappropriate to express opinions. Have you known people who are so
opinionated that they constantly insist on telling you what they think, whether
you want their opinion or not? For instance, it would be very inappropriate to
say something like, “Mr. Bertram, it’s probably none of my business, but have
you noticed how old fashioned your logo looks?” Do you think this person scored
any points?
The exceptions to the no-opinions rule: 1. Your opinion on an
issue has been requested. Be honest in your response but also use discretion.
2. You are expressing an opinion in an area that you believe will help sell
you. For example, “Mr. Johnson, I’ve studied virtually all of the Japanese and
American theorists on management, and have tested many of those methods. What
I’ve learned is that some of them are just fads and have no lasting impact. I’m
still quick to embrace ideas that have been proven to work in U.S. companies,
but I really look hard at them to see if they will work with my particular
department.” Here the person has intentionally expressed an opinion. The
comment demonstrates that this manager is very knowledgeable and that she has
learned to be selective about introducing new management techniques.
Especially during the 1960s and 1970s, many college graduates
went into interviews expressing a strong distaste for big business and
capitalism. Today, liberal arts graduates are the ones most likely to
consciously or unconsciously express an anti-business bias. Throughout the
interview, demonstrate that although you majored in history or speech, you have
an appreciation for private enterprise. Business people do not feel the need to
defend the profit motive, neither do they want to enter a debate regarding
their record on pollution control. Raising these and other anti-business issues
merely raises questions about you.
If you have strong views on various issues, however, there is
a solution. Research the company prior to the interview to determine how well
it matches your values. If you like the organization and you’re called in for a
second interview, research the organization more thoroughly. Even if your
research doesn’t give you a definitive answer about the organization, go to the
interview and thoroughly sell yourself. If the matter you’re concerned about is
an emotional issue for you, it is probably best not to ask questions concerning
the issue until the job is actually offered to you. When you do ask your
questions, ask in a calm, objective fashion. If the company passes your test, you
have an employer who shares your values.
A common problem I
observe among job seekers is that they often create their own problems. They
commonly do this by showing a streak of negativity. During interviews they
often identify certain aspects of a job which they would not like. Unlike those
who merely become less enthusiastic about the job, these people actually raise
barriers. They will point out to the interviewer the perceived negative aspects
of the job during the first interview. Remember, employers are often looking
for reasons to exclude people from further consideration. If it appears a
person has a negative attitude or really doesn’t want the job, the employer
needs no further reasons for rejecting the person. The first or even second interview
is not the time or place to raise issues such as the long hours, the long
commute, or the inadequate medical plan. Keep silent on these issues and go
right on selling yourself. After the job has been offered to you, then these
issues should be raised and discussed. That is the proper time.
The person who carefully measures every response, and who
seems fearful of revealing anything which could possibly be construed as
negative, quickly creates a negative impression. The interviewer becomes
frustrated by this total lack of self-disclosure. After the interview the
employer knows about past job titles and duties, but has no sense of the
person—he or she remains an unknown entity. While it’s important to be careful in
what you say, you must also come across as genuine and real. Striking the right
balance between openness and discretion is a matter of preparation. If you know
the points you want to sell about yourself, if you are prepared to answer all
of the typical questions, and if you are prepared to handle any difficult
questions with tact and discretion, you will be able to relax more and be your
true self.
Some people are so concerned about the appearance of bragging
that they are unwilling to say anything positive about themselves. Their
attitude seems to be, “I probably won’t get the job, but at least I didn’t toot
my own horn like a lot of people.” This is a self-defeating attitude. If you
don’t say positive things about yourself, who will? Interviewing is all about
selling yourself. To sell yourself you need to believe that you’re a pretty
good product and that any company which hires you will be fortunate. If you
tend to undersell yourself, it’s especially important that you take a good look
at your accomplishments and identify the skills you demonstrated in those
accomplishments.
To avoid the appearance of bragging, simply talk about your
experiences. In this way, you can let the experience speak for itself. If the
interviewer wants to be impressed, he can be; if not, he won’t. If the
interviewer is not impressed, you haven’t hurt yourself because you did not
create huge expectations. It’s better to respond in this way:
Employer: Are you
effective at completing projects on schedule?
Jon: That’s one of my top
strengths. I’ve worked on numerous complex projects that had very tight
deadlines. In fact I’ve developed a reputation as the person to give the really
tough projects to. One of them was already three months behind when I took it
over, and I had only five months to complete it. Basically I had to …
At the beginning of Jon’s statement he sounded
fairly modest but also very confident. I don’t believe that anyone would think
he was bragging. So, go ahead and feel confident. As your story unfolds, it
will speak for itself.
Interviewees are more apt to be too modest than to brag.
Nevertheless, some do come across as bragging, and it always hurts the
interviewee. Often the job seeker has no intention of bragging; it just comes
out that way. The antidote to the appearance of bragging is sharing specific
examples and letting the example speak on your behalf. The sense of bragging
usually comes through because the interviewee merely makes claims yet never
backs them up. Employers want to sense your confidence, but confidence should
not spill over into conceit. Avoid saying you are outstanding in a certain
area. Even if you provide a good, solid example, the interviewer may be
disappointed because expectations were set so high. It is better to sound
somewhat modest, and then share an impressive example, than to claim greatness
and give an example demonstrating you are “only” excellent at that skill.
Some
interviewees feel compelled to take control of the interview. They dominate the
conversation and take it in directions the interviewer never intended.
Generally, this approach makes an interviewee seem arrogant. A client recounted
how he began interviewing an applicant, and was still in a rapport-building
stage, when out of nowhere the applicant said, “Well, let’s roll up our sleeves
and really get to it.” This created an instant feeling of dislike. The
applicant did not get the job. Another applicant entered the room, took off his
coat, and announced, “Let’s get comfortable.” The results were the same.
Julie learned from
inside sources that her prospective boss was a sailing nut, but she didn’t
quite know how to weave her knowledge into the interview
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